Being a working mom and balancing it all is a working progress.
Staying productive and work-driven seems to be my problem right now. How about you?
Why is it so difficult to get your body to follow your mind? There are plenty of times when I am mentally motivated to check things off my to do list, but the problem is getting up to do it.
Do I really need to grab my computer? Ok, I’ll get up in in 30 mins promise.
Or I know that I should schedule doctor appointments for the kids but then I think– maybe I should just fold clothes instead. Mind you doing house chores is my excuse not to take care real business.
Plus did I mention I am 5 months preggo! That also adds to the laziness I feel.
So far I have a week old birthday letter that needs to be mailed, weekly blog posts that should be published, more clothes to fold and on and on.
But they are many things I have learned during this tiring, unmotivated, undriven time in my life as a working mom.
Understand Your Challenges so that You can Adjust.
As a working mom, my challenge involves getting the kids out the house on time in the morning so that I can make the 7:42 train. If I make it to the train, then I can make it to work before 9 am.
I have a morning routine and night routine that worked like a charm until the summer set in, and I fell off schedule. So one thing I must do is regroup and get back into a productive working mom routine.
Being pregnant has been a big challenge because all I want to do is SLEEP. If only there were more hours in the day so I can sleep and get stuff done. Some days I’m pumped up cleaning, involved on my FB groups and organizing my to-do list. But 80% of the time I’m a mushy noodle with no energy.
Things that help combat the limited drive is to add it to your schedule and give yourself a timeframe. So, for instance, set your alarm for 5 mins to get up so you can brain dump and organize your to-do list.
2. Ask for Help
Don’t be shy about asking for help. It doesn’t mean you’re weak it means you’re wise- iliketoqoute.com
Asking for help is hard for me because outside of my husband I am the “ ill do it myself “ girl, which is not a good trait to have because you can burn yourself out and get nothing done.
You know when you have so much to do that you end up doing nothing.
Don’t be ashamed to ask family and friends to babysit when you need a break so you can catch up on important tasks, cleaning, and sleep. Ok, no more sleeping!
Enlist the family when you can. I have 2 children. My son Leo will be 10 in September and my little girl Destinee will be 4 in October. My how the years seem to fly but the days seem so long. Anyway, they have been a big help in keeping the house clean. Leo has now upgraded to maintaining the kitchen and dining room clean. Destinee, on the other hand, keep things off the floor such as shoes, books, clothes, toys, and food. The girl has mastered the dust pan!
My husband has actually picked up my slack. He does the night time routine with the kids, cooks or more likely brings food home, after school pick ups and takes our son to football practice. He also washes so many clothes. I still don’t understand how we make so many clothes but he is the washer and I am the folder. We have that down to a science too.
3. Prepare in Advance
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The hardest thing to do is start something right then and there. But when things are prepped, it seems easier.
Things to prep that can ease feeling overwhelmed or unproductive.
- Meal prep ideas- 20 lunches you can meal prep on Sunday or if your kids have allergy like my little girl 7 days of allergy free meals
- Nighttime routine that makes mornings easier
- Prepare for a productive week – blog post or another task that contributes to your side hustle
- Organize your weekly and monthly calendar
- Prepare your mind for the things that need to be completed
4. Give Yourself Permission to take a Break
“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will no withdraw from us.” — Maya Angelou
I can relate to the idea of getting everything done NOW, especially since we only have one month to get our entire life in order. Ok, that was a joke, but I’m sure you feel as though time is not on your side and you are racing the clock.
Be sure you give your self a time limit, so 3 days of relaxing seems reasonable where as 3 months is counter productive.
“Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax.” — Bryant McGill
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5. Focus on What Matters Most and Make You Happy
In life, there should always be goals that you want to reach. Keep in mind there are things more important therefore remain humble and grateful.
So in the midst of taking on life’s new journey, I make a point to stay present in my life. You don’t want to go throughout life missing the good stuff.
- Notice the smile of your children because they grow fast.
- Cuddle with your loved one to keep the fire and to show appreciation.
- Be there for those you come in contact with because you never know whose life you can positively influence.
- Be grateful that you can see, hear, and smell because it’s easy to take things for granted
- Make time for your girlfriends so you can vent, laugh or just hang out
These might not directly motivate you, but they can put you in a good headspace so that you can remember your WHY and push towards it. Being a mom is challenging enough. Adding work to the schedule complicates things even more. But as a working mom finding what works, taking time for yourself and keeping a plan can make it all better.